Talk with your teen about dating and healthy relationships. If you think your child is being abused by their boyfriend or girlfriend, the most important thing you can do is be supportive and remind them that help is available.
What to do:
- Simply listen and be supportive. Your teen may need to “vent” about what happened.
- Tell them that you are sorry the abuse happened and it is not their fault.
- Reach out to others like coaches, teachers, friends, etc., all of whom may be able to help.
- If you need help talking to your teen, there are apps designed to help parents better understand dating abuse and what to do if they think their child is being abused by their boyfriend or girlfriend.
What NOT to do:
- Wait for them to come to you.
- Judge them. Your teen may not share anything with you if they feel like you think they have done something wrong.
- Give advice, unless they ask for it, or offer explanations or solutions.
Local domestic violence programs are great resources, too. Call the New York State Domestic and Sexual Violence Hotline at 1-800-942-6906, English & español/Multi-language Accessibility for more information. Deaf or Hard of Hearing: 711
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