New York State joins the nation in marking February as Teen Dating Violence (TDV) Awareness and Prevention Month. View Governor Cuomo’s proclamation.
Check out these ideas and get involved to prevent dating abuse in your community. You may help save someone’s life.
#controlisntlove: Send a virtual sweet treat and a strong message about dating violence and the importance of healthy relationships. Use social media to share photos of you, your friends and adults in your life holding paper versions of candy conversation hearts featuring the words, “I’m changing the message by…” followed by something you’ll commit to do to raise awareness. Don’t forget to use the hash tag #controlisntlove and @NYSOPDV on Twitter, Instagram and Facebook.
This effort is a part of the “Control Isn't Love" public awareness campaign featuring iconic candy hearts with messages of control and abuse, instead of expected sentiments of love and affection.
Be an active bystander. Speak up against any acts of dating abuse you see, whenever you see it. If someone is being treated in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable, step in. When you see people targeting someone online, don’t ignore it, at least change the subject. Share this “ICanDoSomethingNY” video with your friends and check out the Resource Card (pdf) HTML (Web page) for more information.
Turn your school, community, and social media accounts orange for love. Wear orange all month long or pick one day to wear orange shirts, nail polish, ribbons, hair extensions, face paint, shoelaces, or anything else.
Tweet, post or share facts about dating violence and to suggest ways your friends can get involved.
Schools and youth programs can raise awareness of teen dating violence in a variety of ways:
- Download and display posters
- Design your own banners, fliers or artistic displays to make a statement.
- Reach out to clubs and groups at your school to help organize/fund events (i.e., dramatic performances, speakers, educational campaigns, etc.).
- Write an article for your school newspaper to raise awareness of the issue.
- Ask your school to develop a dating abuse school policy.
- Like OPDV on Facebook and follow us on Twitter to stay up to date on the latest news, campaigns and information. Encourage your friends to do the same.
- Volunteer at your local domestic violence program.
- Organize an event to raise money for a local domestic violence program or collect items the shelter needs.
- Ask your local elected officials to issue a proclamation marking February as Teen Dating Violence Prevention and Awareness Month – or October as Domestic Violence Awareness Month – in your community.
Being an active bystander means doing something to stop abuse that is happening, intervene before abuse happens, or get help for the person being abused. You may not think it is your place to get involved, but dating abuse is not a personal problem. It is a serious crime that affects us all.
First and foremost, keep in mind safety: yours and the victim’s. You should never do anything that can put yourself or the person being abused in danger. If you think a situation might be dangerous, call 9-1-1.
There are many ways to safely be an active bystander:
- Speak out - If you see a friend talk to or treat his or her partner disrespectfully, say something. Try something like, “Hey. I heard the way you were talking to Chris. That was really mean. Why do you treat Chris like that?”
- Respond as a group - when talking to someone about abuse, it sometimes helps to have friends join you for the conversation.
- Create a distraction - If you see someone being abusive, create a distraction. For example, spill your drink, ask the abuser for directions, or stand nearby pretending to talk on your cell phone.
Remember – If things get out of hand or become too serious, or if you’re not sure what to do, call 9-1-1.
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