Teen Dating Violence Awareness and Prevention

#ControlisntLove

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Control Isn't Love

Abuse can take many forms. Controlling, possessive or extremely jealous behavior can be signs of abuse and red flags for future physical violence.

February is Teen Dating Violence Awareness and Prevention Month. #controlisntlove is a social media advertising campaign coordinated by the NYS Office for the Prevention of Domestic Violence to educate young adults about the signs of teen dating abuse and where to get help. Send a virtual valentine and a strong message about dating violence and the importance of healthy relationships. Use social media to share photos of you, your friends and adults in your life holding paper versions of candy conversation hearts with this sentence completed: “I’m changing the message by…”

Don’t forget to use the hashtag #controlisntlove and tag @NYSOPDV to spread the love.

The Voices of Teen Violence

“I was used to him texting me fifty times a day, and always wanting to know where I was and who I was with. I didn’t realize that was emotional abuse. He shoved me a few times, but I guess I always thought that since he didn’t hit me, he was a good guy.”

“She told me that it was my fault she was so mad. That if I loved her, I’d hang out with her instead of meeting up with my friends. It’s like nothing I did was ever right.”

“Most young people don’t realize that there is help available. You don’t have to be an adult to talk to an advocate, call the police, or get an order of protection. We can help them through this; they don’t have to be alone.”

Get Help

For help or information, call 1-800-942-6906, English, Español and Multi-language Accessibility.

Deaf or Hard of Hearing: 711. In NYC: 1-800-621-HOPE (4673) or dial 311 TTY: 1-866-604-5350

Relationships 101

Get Help

For Yourself

Learn what you can do, what resources are available and what your rights are if you think you are being abused.

For a Friend

Learn how you can support a friend if you think they are being abused or if you think they are abusing their partner.

Turn Awareness into Action

Advocates

Facts, legal information and resources for advocates who work with teens.

Information for Schools

Information designed to help end dating violence in high schools and on college campuses.

Learn More About Warning Signs and How You Can Help a Friend in Need

Do Your Part

Help Spread the Word

Put up a "Control Isn’t Love" poster in your school or around your local community, businesses or organizations.